5 Things.. for 5 Years

Five Years


Today I celebrate my five-year wedding anniversary with my best friend, soulmate, and partner in crime. It’s interesting the longer time marches on, the more I realize that the “old” people in my life growing up were right about a lot of things.

Telling people that it is my five-year anniversary has warranted unique comments and facial expressions. “You’ve been married for five years; that is a huge milestone in this day and age.” <- I can’t believe this is what I hear because I still feel like a newlywed. I guess in the era of easy marriages, easy divorces, Wes and I are an anomaly.

So my anomaly self-has five things to share about being married for five years.

1. Welcome kids when you are both ready to give up each other for awhile. I mean this truthfully, you have to be willing to be okay with a “roommate” like status for a little while. Sleep deprivation, being peed and barfed on, not having “that body”, it can take a toll on one’s self-esteem. Then you throw in that this little person needs you SO much that anyone who can fend for themselves…well, frankly you don’t care because they can make a sandwich.

2. Don’t be afraid to have a conversation. Is it uncomfortable to talk about money? Yes. Is it uncomfortable to talk about sex? Yes. Is it uncomfortable to tell them to turn the toilet paper roll or you are going to go insane? Well probably not on that one. But, honestly, you have to have conversations about certain things. Look at it this way, you married your best friend…who else would you rather talk to about things than them?

3. Don’t fart in front of them. <- Just that. It’s not sexy, it’s not funny, and in the ten years we’ve been together it hasn’t ever happened. It will stay this way.

4. Remember who you are. You are great as a Mr. or Mrs. but you are still your own person. Don’t forget your roots, don’t forget what makes you tick, and don’t be afraid to do your own thing once and awhile.

5. Don’t forget about each other. Crazy for me to have this as a tip but when your with someone for a long time, they become your constant. The one thing that doesn’t change. BUT that doesn’t mean you should forget about them. Hug them when they come in the door. Spend a couple minutes on a Saturday morning playing footsie in bed when the sun comes up and ask them how they are doing. Send a text message letting them know they are the best thing in your life.

That Happened… Wedding Version

Bailey Wedding 2010

When I first wrote this, Wes and I had were celebrating four years married and nine years together. Now, it is our 5 year anniversary and I still say…  If I have learned one thing nothing goes as planned. It doesn’t matter if it’s a small dinner party or a big wedding, something is sure to go totally wrong or totally right.

So… Now that the bills have been paid and the dress preserved – let’s journey back to 2010 and discuss some of these “That Happened…” moments.

Bailey Wedding 2010

We all wore a shoe that has a ruffle. This was the one and only time I wore these shoes. 

Bailey Wedding 2010

These two were very excited to be flower girls….


They had to be flower girls.

Bailey Wedding 2010

Yep. That happened

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Wes dad dominated him in a game of pool. Not even on his wedding day was he allowed to win.


At 1:00 am the day of my wedding, we all had the brilliant idea to have fun walkouts for the bridal party. This was the meeting for them to go over what was going to happen.

It was a huge crowd pleaser, even if the guys didn’t know about it until 1 hour till showtime.

Bailey Wedding 2010

A memory worth keeping!

Bailey Wedding 2010

We found out my dad is hella photogenic.. Who would have known.


Speaking of photogenic… Out of 1900 photos, there isn’t one bad one of these two.

Bailey Wedding 2010

She’s been my bestie for over 10 years. This is when she lived in Hawaii and put us all to shame on the tan factor.

Bailey Wedding 2010

I hate ants all over my dress at this point.

Bailey Wedding 2010

I was re-thinking a June wedding at this point… Look how sweaty my forehead is!!


This is the picture of a mom who didn’t know we were doing Mother/Son, Father/Daughter dances.


And this guy at the bar ended up costing us $400 because he got smashed and smashed in the bathroom mirror. So, watch who people bring as their plus ones…


This is the one and only time I wore and will wear a cowboy hat….It was my Father-In-Law’s

Bailey Wedding 2010

Two Cosmos…I did not drink them. I am still sad until this day.

Bailey Wedding 2010

Someone played the chicken dance… and I hate that song.

It does look like I’m about to take my anger out on poor Wendy.

Bailey Wedding 2010

This little guy…he isn’t so little anymore :(

Bailey Wedding 2010

Instead of a bouquet toss, I gave my flowers to the couple who has been married the longest. 46 years…and the advice he gave Wes. Learn to say yes…frequently (Side note: Kathy lost her battle with cancer, R.I.P, you’re a beautiful soul and we lost a great one).

Bailey Wedding 2010

To get everyone on the dance floor at the same time, tell them your taking a group picture… THEN start the music. Everyone stays and dances. I wish I could tell you whats going on here but some poses are meant to be secrets till the grave.

Young – Healthy – Fearless

Young and Fearless

Life motto at the moment: Live Young, Healthy, and Fearless.

Time may march on, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up being youthful, fearless, and healthy.

Swing on swings
Head the farmers market and try something new
Remember the love you had when you first met
Keep trying new things
Don’t forget your daily Vitamin D with a side of SPF
and mostly LIVE!!

This is why I haven’t been blogging lately. I’ve been busy living. Weekends have been carved out for my son and my husband and sometimes even me. Weeknights are full of reading and bath time and basketball and whatever else we feel like doing in the moment.

I’ve learned a lot of things from Logan but this time I’ve learned something from the time I’ve had with Logan. It goes extremely fast, and I can’t get it back. This kid is creeping in on being 2 1/2 already, how can this be?

So take the time to be Young, Healthy, and Fearless.

Do what makes you happy.

Make choices that can keep you around the ones you love longer.


And be fearless!!!

I tried it – Cycling


Remember me preaching that you have to find “you” time? I started feeling like a hypocrite because I wasn’t practicing what I was preaching. Sometimes you have all the best intentions to be your own person but at the end of being Mrs. Bailey and Mommy, a girl just wants to kick up her feet up and drink some wine.

But instead of wine drinking, I decided to call my friend Larry and tell him after five years of telling him I’d try cycling that I was ready to go. He. Was. Thrilled.

I give mad props to cyclists. I clocked in 13 miles with an average speed of 12.5 MPH and the fasted at 22 MPH. It was so much fun, I really like to ride a bike. The weather was perfect, the route was a semi-incline at 3% grade the way there and pretty much cake on the way back. My only complaint was how bad my lady parts felt afterward. I mean, woah, it was intense. So if that could get fixed I would cycle more.

Next up… Mountain Biking (on the bunny slopes ;-)

Why Logan is Logan.


I had an email from a reader (yay!) asking me how I decided on the name Logan. She is 36 weeks pregnant and her and her husband can’t compromise on a name.

Let me first start off by saying that I loved the name Ryan. Wes hated the name Ryan. So Logan is not a Ryan (obviously). When we started going through names the only ones that Wes liked were comic book names, I wasn’t as attached to a name (besides Ryan) so I was open. This was the list that I was given:


Anyone see a common theme here. It’s all about the Spiderman, Batman, Superman, etc. etc. So while I was given the list of approved names from Wes, I had to decided on the final. Since my brother’s name is Tony and my dad is Steven, so bye-bye Iron Man and Captain America. I couldn’t have imagined naming him Loki, Bruce, Peter or Thor. So it was Lex, Clark, or Logan. Then when I saw the blue balloons I just knew it was meant to be…. Logan was meant to be.

Don’t stress about naming your baby. If you screw it up, that’s what nicknames are for. I mean think about it… William is Willie, Bill, Will, Liam, etc.

p.s. Logan is Wolverine ;-) Kind of fits his fighter mentality, right?

Happy… Birthday

Mother's Day

Date: Sunday, May 10th, Mother’s day.

Task: Enjoy the little one who made me a mommy

Step One: Logan runs down the hallway and throws his arms around me and then looks at me and says “Happy Birthday”.

Say whatttt

Okay my heart melted in a million pieces. He was so proud of himself for wishing me happiness on Mother’s Day, so who cares if it’s a birthday wish.

One thing that is frustrating as a working mom is to stop and just be. It’s either all about my career or all about my family. So commercial or not, it was nice to just be on Mother’s Day. Grabbing a workout, snagging an amazing “happy birthday” gift from my best guy, and laying outside in the sun while everyone napped was all and more I could have asked for.

I am also very excited for my friend Veronika and the exciting news she shared! SHE makes motherhood look good and even if I haven’t met her in person, I think she’s pretty freaking amazing.

So cheers to just being on Mother’s Day.

Happy Birthday!

Mothers Day

Want to see the Mother’s Day video from Logan? It’s on Instagram – violetsageblog

Mother’s Day Ideas

Mother's Day

Workout Tops (1,2) | Nike Shoes | Shampoo and Conditioner | Alexa Tote in Nude | Coordinates Necklace | BCBG Shoes


Dear Dads, 

Guess what… Moms are pretty simple, if you take a minute to step out of the “norm” idea of gifts. We love pictures of our babies and we don’t want to cook on Mother’s Day. When it comes to gift giving, think outside of the box. Look at what we like but rarely do/get. Be creative and remember who your wife is too (and no our name is not just mom). 

Much Love,

Moms Everywhere

With that being said… Here are some of my favorite picks this year

For the athletic mom: We love graphic tops with inspiration and cute shoes. Easy Peasy

For the beauty mom: Spa is nice, but so is something that lasts… For me, that is my favorite shampoo that I feel is too expensive to buy

For the working mom: hello nude bag and fabulous shoes

For the moms in all of us: a necklace with the coordinates of where your child was born

I can’t wait to spend the day with my little man and soak in as much love as I can get. What is on your docket?



I mentioned that we took Logan to Los Angeles for his check up but what I forgot to mention is the amazing trip we had prior to that. Last year when everything was happening with Logan we would drive up and back in 24 hours. Logan started noticing that when he’d be in the car for a long time that he would end up in a Doctor’s office being poked and prodded. So Wes and I decided that we would make his follow-up appointments more fun. We left on Friday (driving while Logan sleeps is the only way to do it) bound for Aliso Viejo. They have a hotel there that is connected to a large club sport. So not only do they have amazing pools, a kids water park, fresh food, tons of water stations to use at will, a large room, clean cribs, great staff, and a 20,000 sq. ft. work out facility, they have daycare. That is right people, a daycare that you can use for up to three hours a day as long as you stay on property.

Saturday we took Logan swimming, played football, went shopping, let him play in the daycare, drink smoothies and eat as many pancakes as he wanted. Then on Sunday we headed up to Pico Rivera where my brother lives. We spent the day with them at a Wildlife Park where all Logan wanted to do was swing. We headed into Downey for Ice Cream and Tacos before letting Logan run out his energy and ham it up for his Uncle and Aunt at their house. We made it to Downtown Los Angeles RIGHT before the Clippers playoff game.

I hope these small trips make it easier for Logan when he has to endure these follow-ups. I know them for sure help mom and dad’s nerves.

Next time we will take him to Pretend City… Timing didn’t work out to go, but next time we will!


The Stress of a Follow-Up



If you’ve been following along you know that Logan has a rare eye condition that the best doctors in the world still have no answers for. After our exam under anesthesia had come back negative for Cancer last year, we were elated, but we still do not have any answer as to what his eye condition is. So we travel to Los Angeles to see our doctor and make sure there haven’t been any changes. The first follow up happened this past Monday, and I was a nervous wreck. Have you ever been a nervous wreck without realizing it? It wasn’t until after the appointment ended that I started shaking, crying, and I carried a headache the rest of the day.

We arrived a little early to our appointment. The Children’s Hospital Los Angeles is amazing, the care they give kids is so far above what most healthcare clinics are doing. They had books, an x-box, Disney of the TV’s, and two rooms to wait (one with toys the other calmer). It felt like it was no longer than we sat down that we were called back to the dilation room. Logan fought us, but we were able to give him his dilation drops. We turned on his YouTube Little Baby Bum songs to help calm him down as we waited for them to take effect. Just a short ten minutes after that we went into the exam room and met with Dr. Lee. For the exam, I held Logan and once I did he turned into the Incredible Hulk, he is so strong, the nurse opened his eye while the doctor held his head and finished the exam. Even though we still have to hold Logan down for his exam, the doctor and nurse are not rough or scary (unlike the Retina Specialists of Nevada who I would NEVER recommend anyone to take their child too). The doctor then talked to Logan and gave him something to play with while we talked. He kept telling the doctor “bye-bye” and running to the door.

The doctor told us that there was no change in Logan’s eye (talk about relief) and instead of coming back in four months, we could come back in six. He also wanted us to patch the right eye and see how Logan reacts. The doctor explained that he won’t have 20/20 vision, but he may have some since his eye doesn’t slip in toward the right eye. We were advised to try it but depending on Logan’s reaction is if we continued or not. We tried patching when we got home, I’ve never seen so much panic in my son’s face. He was scared, not mad, just scared. I was about a foot in front of him and Wes was holding him up and asked him to walk to mama…my sweet boy was putting his hand out and waving it up and down asking for me in a horrified voice. So needless to say, he can not see, he is blind in his left eye, and I will not be doing that again until he can talk to me and understand what is happening.

Until that happens, he will continue his supernormal life as the coolest kid in the world.