Today I celebrate my five-year wedding anniversary with my best friend, soulmate, and partner in crime. It’s interesting the longer time marches on, the more I realize that the “old” people in my life growing up were right about a lot of things.
Telling people that it is my five-year anniversary has warranted unique comments and facial expressions. “You’ve been married for five years; that is a huge milestone in this day and age.” <- I can’t believe this is what I hear because I still feel like a newlywed. I guess in the era of easy marriages, easy divorces, Wes and I are an anomaly.
So my anomaly self-has five things to share about being married for five years.
1. Welcome kids when you are both ready to give up each other for awhile. I mean this truthfully, you have to be willing to be okay with a “roommate” like status for a little while. Sleep deprivation, being peed and barfed on, not having “that body”, it can take a toll on one’s self-esteem. Then you throw in that this little person needs you SO much that anyone who can fend for themselves…well, frankly you don’t care because they can make a sandwich.
2. Don’t be afraid to have a conversation. Is it uncomfortable to talk about money? Yes. Is it uncomfortable to talk about sex? Yes. Is it uncomfortable to tell them to turn the toilet paper roll or you are going to go insane? Well probably not on that one. But, honestly, you have to have conversations about certain things. Look at it this way, you married your best friend…who else would you rather talk to about things than them?
3. Don’t fart in front of them. <- Just that. It’s not sexy, it’s not funny, and in the ten years we’ve been together it hasn’t ever happened. It will stay this way.
4. Remember who you are. You are great as a Mr. or Mrs. but you are still your own person. Don’t forget your roots, don’t forget what makes you tick, and don’t be afraid to do your own thing once and awhile.
5. Don’t forget about each other. Crazy for me to have this as a tip but when your with someone for a long time, they become your constant. The one thing that doesn’t change. BUT that doesn’t mean you should forget about them. Hug them when they come in the door. Spend a couple minutes on a Saturday morning playing footsie in bed when the sun comes up and ask them how they are doing. Send a text message letting them know they are the best thing in your life.